There, I said it.

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Let’s be honest — having a penis is challenging in modern society. No woman will ever truly understand what it is like to have one, just as no man will ever truly understand what it’s like to go through PMS or pregnancy.

However, every guy (regardless of how much he wants to disagree with me to virtue signal) knows what it is like to see a beautiful woman and have thoughts.

I don’t care how nice you think your male friend is (and ladies you know this is true), but if he is straight, and if…


Overcoming choice paralysis

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“What do you want?” Ryan Gosling asked Rachel McAdams in that famous scene from The Notebook.

A dramatic scene turned comedy by adding the caption “When you ask her what she wants to eat.”

It isn’t just women who are indecisive, unless I’m secretly a woman, but the problem is actually the phrasing of the question, “What do you want to eat?”

We live in a world where options are nearly limitless. By asking someone a vague question such as “What [in the whole world] do you want to eat?” …


And why I’m addicted to Google

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Anyone else addicted to Google? I Google everything because I remember a time before Google, back when we used to just believe people.

Adults lied to us about everything. We couldn’t fact check them, and they never corrected themselves. They never said, “Hey, you’re older now, remember when I told you that masturbating would make your palms hairy?”

They just left that in your head and let it define you.

I spent 20 years believing that sleeping with my socks on would make my feet fall off. I don’t even know what the purpose of that lie was. Like, I…


This was lovely and inspiring. Quick, time to go write 1000 words! =]


Remembering Stoicism for a happy today

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It has been quite some time since I’ve drifted from the path of Stoicism. The good news is I’ve put in enough work to not let myself spiral too far down the negativity hole. I just simply forgot to live in the moment.

Plenty of things have happened, both good and bad, over the past year. 2020 was a challenge for many. Although coming off the heels of 2019 (which I dubbed “my year”), I was riding so high that 2020 didn’t break me. I didn’t thrive, but I didn’t fail, I just existed.


Look for this one quality

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Do soulmates exist?

Some people believe so — I do not. I believe some people are more suitable for each other, but regardless, relationships require work.

I used to think a “perfect” woman had a perfect body and flawless face (This was before I learned women in Hollywood are products of makeup and photoshop), but as I grew older I realized no one is perfect and looks don’t matter that much.

I’ve been with my wife for almost 11 1/2 years. Don’t get me wrong, she’s beautiful, and that certainly helps, but her appearance has…


Give her what she needs

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There’s a big difference between men and women and it can be summed up like this — men set boundaries, women test them.

This isn’t a bad thing. This is nature (or God if you’re so inclined). It is the duality of life, the Yin-Yang relationship between all things. Both are necessary, and both are beautiful.

A woman’s nature is to test her man. To understand why just think back to when gender roles were more set in stone. Before technology, before large cities, and before 9–5 jobs, life was all about survival. …


I’m canceling cancel culture

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Cliches are cliches for a reason. They’re rooted in truth. When I was a kid, the saying was, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” That mantra is beautiful.

I understand what happened, I really do. I grew up in the ’90s and early 2000’s and people were mean. Especially when the internet became a common household commodity. Once people were connected 24/7, and with the anonymity the internet provided, people were able to unleash their thoughts unfiltered.

We’re all fucked in the head to various degrees. Especially those of…

RJ Harrigan

Author— A Rose For Isabel -Now Available on Amazon

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